Confucius once said “Wherever you go, go with your heart”
Every relationship or marriage should begin with love and end with love, or should never even end at all, for like they say “true love has no end”
In relationships many things are important but none is as important as love. British Broadcasting Channel (BBC) once told one of the greatest love stories of an Indian man “Pradyumna Kumar Mahanandia” whom despite abject poverty earned a place as a student at the College of Art in New Delhi.
Following his painting of Indira Gandhi, many people wanted him to draw them. One of those was Charlotte Von Schedvin, who was traveling in India.
They soon fell in love and got married. Charlotte, however, had to return home to Sweden. She offered to pay for Pradyumna’s plane ticket, but he had too much pride to accept and promised he would make the money on his own.
After a year, he had still not saved enough.
Selling all of his possessions, he made enough to buy a bicycle. He then cycled for four months and three weeks, covering 4,000 miles across Afghanistan, Iran, Turkey, Yugoslavia, Germany, Austria, and Denmark to get to Sweden.
They are still happily married 40 years later, and live in Sweden with their two children.
When asked about his arduous journey, his reply was, “I did what I had to, I had no money but I had to meet her. I was cycling for love, but never loved cycling. It’s simple.”
Talk about the things we do for love and not just love, but unconditional love.
These days most of us have conditional love for our friends and partners. By conditional love, we don’t mean you necessarily demand something in return for your love, we mean your love for a person is based on certain criterion, standards and elements they have met in your life, sometimes consciously and subconsciously. Most of us now have dream partners based on fiction and fairy tales, heights, skin colour, looks and especially finance are one of the greatest motivation of our love. We have made our hears like a control and set it in such a way to fall in love with the person we have fantasized, when our heart does this, we think it’s love, but in all truth, it’s just lust. Unconditional love should be based on what come truly from the heart. Love shouldn’t be forced or paid for. Let it come naturally. Love should be free and not hidden. Don’t stay with someone who you can’t deal with Their faults. We can learn how to accommodate one another when love is involved. There should be a mutual understanding. Happiness should be included too when you love someone. Unconditional love holds no bound. Love should be everlasting, it should be pure and appreciated too. You don’t need to listen to what people say about your partner, even if it’s true, you should know how to handle the suitation. Fight for one another, stand by one another . Don’t tolerate people insulting your partner and you accept it, no way, you need to stop it.
These days, true love is almost hard to find, everyone seem to love you for a reason,how many people truly love you for no reason? Tell them you’re broke and see how many will go. We really need to go back to love, but not just love but true and unconditional love, if your love has a price then it means anybody can buy it as long as they can afford it, your love has nothing to stand on, it can’t withstand the test of time, because no matter how bad things get between you and your partner, they’ll always be a reason to hold on and that’s love. Embrace true love today and stop attaching any conditions or desires to it, only then will you be truly happy, love and fire have something in common, they both are a dangerous servant and a fearful master. Be in love with the person, make the person feel comfortable and loved always. Love is beautiful. It should be unconditional. Love like fire can keep you warm or burn you up, but both depends on how you use it. I will end here with the quote from American singer and poet Lana Del Rey “when someone else’s happiness is your happiness, then that is love”. On this note, I say love with all your might, love with all your mind, but above all, love with all your heart.