ENTANGLED

Sometimes, I wonder if people sit down to rethink about their decision. Why do they do things without considering some facts. People make decision and they regret it at the end of the day. They miss the precious treasure they have. They miss all the goodies that comes with it. At some point, when they finally know what harm they have done, it becomes too late to re frame their steps. They cry and cry and ask for mercy and they promise to change for good. Not in all cases do they get favored, some people cant give you second chances, some have given, two, three, five or more chances to make positive amends but yet there is no change. There is a lot that one can actually take from someone. Even the nicest people who forgives easily has a limit to what he or she can control. All of us have a heart, this is not about who is evil or bad or good, this is about being real. Life is not a bed of roses. Everyday isn’t Christmas. Why do people see good things and loose it on their own accord, their own making???? So, what am I talking about???? this is it, why do people love to double date??? This is for both male and female. No preferences. You guys have various opinion on this. but is it right? whats wrong if you decide to stick to one person. Is there a rule that states that sticking to one partner is a problem? i mean you have a beautiful or handsome person as your partner yet you are still looking outside. A lot of factors may have pursed you but is it worth it? lets look at these so called factors, firstly, money. the people that put money first in a relationship, is not ready. Your partner may not have today but with support and handwork , he can make it tomorrow. Patient is key in matters like this. You can’t tell the future. Don’t double date because one has the money you want, it will backfire. Remember psquare song, REASON WITH ME. Another factor could be pregnancy. How??? Here, most guys have too many women and they are having sex with, they start comparing the best to the other. This is so so wrong. They even brag about it to their friends, so bad. When the ladies get pregnant, you wont be able to handle it. You get entangled and disappoint them by denying the pregnancy. You look for all ways to break up the relationship. Why do that and its so obvious that the pregnancy is yours. The girl begs you to reason with her but no way, you push her away. Do you know what the future entails? That’s when you come back to start claiming the child after how many years. Where were you all these years, do you know how it is for the mother to take care the child alone? Her parents must have disowned her. The pain, selfishness, disgrace and shame and every other thing that comes with it. Look at this factor, a married woman gets pregnant and gives birth. She was skinny before but now she is fatter, how is it her fault? You leave your wife home with your kids and go to other slim chicks all in the name of my wife is no longer appetizing in my eyes anymore. Are you not the man that got her pregnant? Dont you know that she is bound to add theses weight. I expect that theses guys are well educated to know these stuff. I have a friend, he told me that it very expensive to keep one woman and that he cant have a side chick. Why do you even have a side chick? Why keep more than one woman, deceiving them, sweet talking them, you will get tired, wasting your hard earn money. Is it cool to double date? There are even some people that do more than double date. It could be the lack of understanding, constant nagging and fighting, maybe at the beginning the love was there and was lost at some point in the middle. What could that be the factor that has entangled you in this love web that cant be resolved between the two partners that has resulted in you having a side chick or guy? What??? Is it hard to hold on to one person? Are you guys not scared of diseases like STD, AIDS, HIV, and the rest? Fine, you are protected with condoms but what if something goes wrong? Think, deeply think, don’t put yourself in the position you will regret in the future. So many factors, lots of them, the educational background. He or she did not finish school and when you guys go out, he or she disgraces you with bad English, making so many grammatical error. It could be fashion. The partner can’t dress well, combining of different off colors and not looking good. It could be their eating habit mostly in public, it could the lack of manners, no respects. It could the fact that the person is not clean or neat, it could be, it could be so many things to make you do this but ask yourself, is it right? I am not writing to to judge anyone, it is just a feeling. You know how you feel, right or wrong, let your inner most part of your heart guide you. Relationship have issues, of course, no one is perfect but can’t you find a solution to come back together and love again as it was in the beginning? Is it not possible to work out something? One man, one woman, that is the plan of GOD for everyone. God never created side chicks or side guys, he knew that will be a disaster. So many drama, baby mama, baby father drama. GOD will never give you what you cant carry. Do away with the side partner and restore your relationship with one partner. That’s why we are to pray for directions before starting a relationship. Don’t rush or push yourself to hard. The right guy or lady will come at the right time. Its just a matter of time, people. Don’t do follow follow because your friend(s) have side chick or guy, it won’t work for you. Do every thing you can do to keep one partner, he or she is just that treasure you can’t throw away. Don’t be entangled. Well this is my own side. Please comment your opinion and lets discuss more and please don’t judge me. Enjoy………..